Do you have healthy boundaries?

sherahice
Apr 15
2 min read

Let’s be real—if you’re constantly saying yes, overgiving, and running on empty… your boundaries aren’t working. And it’s not because you’re weak—it’s because no one ever taught you how to protect your time, energy, and peace without guilt.

Here’s the truth: every time you say yes when you mean no, you’re abandoning yourself.

This quick check-in will tell you exactly where you stand. No fluff. No overthinking. Just honesty.

The healthy boundary questionnaire

Answer Yes or No to each question:

Do you often say yes to things you don’t want to do just to avoid disappointing someone?
Do you feel guilty when you say no to requests from friends, family, or coworkers?
Do people in your life frequently expect you to be available at any time?
Do you find yourself overexplaining or justifying your decisions to others?
Do you feel drained or resentful after helping people because you didn’t really want to?
Do you sometimes avoid conflict by staying silent about something that bothers you?
Do others interrupt your time, plans, or priorities and you let it slide?
Do you feel responsible for fixing other people’s emotions or problems?
Do you struggle to ask for what you need directly?
Do you feel like your needs often come last in your relationships?

Your Results

0–2 YES – Strong Boundaries

You’re solid. You know your limits and you honor them. Keep going—this is what self-respect looks like.

3–5 YES – Wobbly Boundaries

You’re on the edge. You’re giving too much, second-guessing yourself, and letting things slide that shouldn’t. It’s time to tighten things up.

6+ YES – Boundary Burnout

You’re exhausted—and it shows. You’ve been overextending, overgiving, and putting yourself last for way too long. This isn’t sustainable, and deep down, you know it.