Sherah Ice Relationship Coach
About Me
Professional Background
In 2004, I started working at the treatment center in Los Angeles that had helped me get sober. That pivotal moment marked the beginning of a 15-year career in behavioral health, a career that would shape the path I walk today.
I began as a residential tech—a role I genuinely enjoyed. I spent most of my time directly with the clients, ensuring their safety, helping them stay on track, and guiding them through their daily routines. But what truly made this work special was the privilege of listening to people who felt they hadn't been heard for as long as they could remember. I learned that real healing often begins when someone finally feels truly seen and understood.
After my time as a residential tech, I had the opportunity to transition into a recovery coach role. I worked one-on-one with individuals struggling with substance abuse, mental illness, and eating disorders. But my support didn’t end with the clients—I was also there for their families, offering education and insight into the struggles their loved ones were facing. I guided individuals through one of the most difficult transitions of their lives, supporting them from detox to discharge, helping them navigate the complex emotions and decisions along the way.
After working in treatment, I had the opportunity to become a recovery coach, providing one-on-one support to individuals struggling with substance use, mental illness, and eating disorders. In this role, I worked closely not only with clients but also with their families. I offered families education and insight to help them better understand the complexities of substance use and mental health challenges. As a coach, I often served as a bridge during moments that had previously been triggering or emotionally charged for everyone involved. It was a unique and meaningful position—one that allowed me to help families communicate more effectively, reduce conflict, and begin moving forward with greater hope and clarity.
After seven years as a recovery coach, I took on the role of Admissions Director at a reputable substance abuse facility in New Mexico. In this position, I continued my work supporting individuals and families through the recovery process, offering compassion, understanding, and practical strategies to help them on their path to healing.
My Dream Realized
In 2019, I reached a point in my career where I felt the urge to make a change. I had spent over a decade in the healthcare field, but something within me was calling me to transition into relational healing. I knew it was my true calling, but—like so many of us—I allowed financial fears, imposter syndrome, and self-doubt to steer me away from this dream toward a more “safe” career choice.
Instead, I made the leap into the senior living industry as a sales director. Once again, I worked closely with families during an incredibly vulnerable time. I assisted parents in coming to terms with the help they never thought they would need, and supported adult children as they stepped into the role of caregiver. It was rewarding work, but I always knew I was meant to do more.
Then, in 2020, I contracted COVID. As an immunocompromised individual, I was severely affected, and very sick for over eight weeks. At that time, no one knew much about long COVID, but I knew this experience was a turning point. I began to seriously question what I wanted out of life. I realized that if I recovered, I needed to restructure my life in a way that was truly authentic to who I was.
I promised myself that if I regained my health, I would live life on my own terms—not based on what I “should” do, but on what truly felt right for me.
“I guess women have to almost die before we give ourselves permission to live how we want” - Glennon Doyle
Turning a New Page
In 2021, I made the decision to leave the senior living and behavioral health industry for good and fully embrace my passion, relational healing. The time had come to honor my true calling.
Now, in this renewed and reinvigorated version of my life, one that I fought so hard to create, I’m able to empower others to break free from unhealthy patterns and create authentic and loving relationships. Whether it's navigating family dynamics, improving romantic relationships, or reclaiming personal well-being, I am committed to helping people achieve their goals and create lasting change.
Personal Journey
I got sober in 2003, at just 19 years old. Alcohol had become my coping mechanism for navigating a toxic family system—until it became a threat to my life. Sobriety was the first step on a long, painful, and ultimately beautiful journey back to myself.
Without alcohol, I gained clarity, health, and found community with people who understood the path I was on. But when the numbing stopped, the noise returned—sometimes louder than ever.
In that silence, I reached for something else: control. My eating disorder became my new way of managing the chaos inside. I was sober, but I was still running—grasping at anything to avoid feeling the pain I wasn’t yet ready to face. The high drama, the compulsions, the constant distraction—they were armor shielding me from my truth.
In 2007, that armor cracked. I entered treatment for my eating disorder—terrified, depleted, and dangerously unwell. I was afraid of dying, but even more afraid of truly living. That moment—raw and vulnerable—became the beginning of real healing.
Since then, I’ve done the deep, ongoing work of coming home to myself. I know what it means to live in the messy middle—the space between survival and true healing. And today, I help others navigate that same space with courage, clarity, and compassion.
You don’t have to hit rock bottom to choose a different way. You just have to be willing to get honest, get curious, and take the first brave step.
Romantic Relationships
My healing journey has been one of constant self-discovery, digging deep into the toxic patterns that once kept me stuck. One of the most difficult areas to navigate was my romantic relationships.
For years, I found myself trapped in high-conflict, dysfunctional relationships, constantly walking on eggshells, afraid that I’d "do something wrong." I internalized every harsh word and manipulative gesture, convincing myself that if I just stayed long enough, things would get better—that the love-bombing, emotional manipulation, and abuse were somehow signs of love.
Intellectually, I knew these relationships were unhealthy, but emotionally, I was invested in proving that things could improve. If I left, I feared it would mean all the suffering had been in vain. I was lying to myself, and deep down, I knew it. But leaving meant admitting that the love I was desperately seeking didn’t exist in these relationships.
This wasn’t living; it was merely surviving—barely.
Eventually, I reached a point where I was ready to break the cycle. I sought help from someone who had walked this painful path and had found the healing I craved. With her support, I began to unravel the unhealthy patterns and gain clarity on the behaviors that kept me stuck. She didn’t just help me identify these toxic dynamics; she also guided me in actively shifting them.
As I grew in emotional health and self-awareness, I found myself ready to attract a partner who was healthy, balanced, and aligned with the person I had become.
Family Dynamics
As I began to heal, I realized the toxic patterns in my romantic relationships weren’t just a coincidence—they mirrored the dysfunctional dynamics in my family. This revelation led me to confront painful truths about my upbringing.
For years, I was gaslit by my family, told that my feelings and perceptions were wrong. I felt a disconnect, but was repeatedly told I was mistaken. I’d been conditioned to dismiss my needs and ignore the violations of my boundaries. But when I began focusing on actions instead of words, the truth became undeniable: my boundaries were constantly crossed, my needs dismissed, and my self-esteem was eroded.
After numerous attempts to express my feelings, set boundaries, and engage in therapy with my narcissistic parent, I reached the painful conclusion that I had exhausted every possible option.
In 2018, I made the difficult decision to go no-contact with my narcissistic parent. This was one of the hardest choices I’ve ever made. The loneliness and shame that often accompany cutting ties with family can be overwhelming. While people may applaud you for leaving an unhealthy romantic relationship, severing ties with a toxic family member is often met with judgment and misunderstanding.
But, once again, I turned to someone who had been where I was—someone who could show me the way forward. I found a coach who shared her experiences and guided me with patience, pointing out the pitfalls I needed to avoid along the way. With her support, I learned to trust myself and recognize the importance of protecting my mental and emotional well-being.
Through this process, I rediscovered my voice, my self-esteem, and most importantly, my worth.
Today
Today, I trust myself.
I respect myself.
I no longer abandon myself.
I use my voice.
I live in the solution.
I stay in the light.
And I embolden others to do the same.
I am married to a kind, compassionate, and brave man. Together, we bring respect, joy, and deep love into our marriage. My husband comes from a loving, gentle family that welcomed me with open arms. His family has taught me so much about what true love looks like—love that is free from manipulation, judgment, dishonesty, or cruelty.
I’ve built a life where only those who are kind, supportive, and committed to personal growth are allowed into my inner circle. These are the people who walk with me on this beautiful journey of transformation. I choose who has access to me—and when the action of love is the standard for connection, life becomes something truly beautiful.
Today, I live a life that I am grateful for and proud of.
Ready to Start Your Own Transformation?
If my story resonates with you and you're feeling inspired to create lasting change in your relationships and life, then let’s get started. Together, I will walk alongside you and guide you as you break free from unhealthy patterns and build the life and relationships you truly deserve.